Monday, November 30, 2009

Friend Coming Out



This friend *Cory* came out recently that he was gay. This is kind of a video explaining reactions from his friends.


Personally, I don't care what sexual orientation my friends are. I look at the person, their mind, heart, and soul. Fact is Cory is the best friend anyone could have. He joined the teen support group I am in (Saints of America) and he's learning quickly that it's not who he should be but who he is!

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Registerd Teen Sex Offenders

Today in school, in my Current Affairs class, we watched a news story regarding teen sex offenders.

FACT 1: The most represented age of ALL sex offenders of ANY age is 14.

FACT 2: 88% of teen sex offenders were victims first, meaning an adult family member or adult friend molested or raped them long before the teen offended someone themselves.

FACT 3: All teens charged with a sex crime MUST register as a sex offender.

So let's talk about each fact.

Fact 1 - All teens experiment. Whatever happend to it being okay to 'show me yours and I will show you mine'? Is this a crime? Today it is if you are caught. Sexual curiosity is natural. It's going to happen. So it is no surprise that the most represented age of all sex offenders is the tender age of 14. The next most represented age was 15! To go along this line, the most represented age of being offended by an adult is the age of 13!

Fact 2 - Sex crimes are learned. Most teen sex offenders are victims first. Some adult in their life has molested or raped them first. They are quick to learn that trust is nothing more than a screen, something you use to gain trust of your victim. Once you gain a person's trust, it's easy to get them to let you offend them.

Fact 3 - Every teen sex offender must require to register as a sex offender. THIS IS SO WRONG! In the cases where the teen offender was the victim first, they shouldn't have to register. But today, the laws are so general, that is the way it is. Only after the offender receives treatment can they appeal having to register. So for a while they are registered. Fortunately in the cases where the teen offender was first a victim, the appeal usually overturns having to register. But the process we have today is wrong. Evaluate BEFORE making them register, they shouldn't have to register until after treatment and they are evaluated that they are still a risk to offend in the future. Treatment usually has a 85% success rate according to Starr Commonwealth. With that said 85% of those teens who have sexually offended were victims first, went through treatment, but still had to register as a sex offender, and THEN appeal in court.

The real underlying problem is lack of education. In the 70s and 80s sex education was taught in almost every school in America. My parents had it in school. Many of my adult friends say they had it in their school. All of them agree, it is something that should be put back in the curriculum.

The teen support group that I am a part of REQUIRES new members to take a sex education class. The first part of the class goes over the male and female anatomy. The second part covers the sexual acts. The third part covers safe sex. And the last part covers the current laws of teenage sex, and how to stay out of trouble when having sex. Everyone who takes the class has become more responsible and knowledgeable regarding sex. Yes, our parents know about this class and even are permitted to sit in on the class themselves. The parents all approve of the class and wish it was taught in the schools.

But in conclusion, today's society has created this taboo regarding teen sex. It's almost like if you have sex it's a crime. It's just a matter if you get caught.

In Ohio, this past summer our lawmakers passed a bill, where if a teenager exposes themselves online in pictures or on webcam, it is a crime and you will be arrested, charged, and register as a sex offender.

The first person arrested under this new law (14yo male) was charged with child pornography, performing a lewd act in public, and public indecency. He was required to go to a treatment facility and register as a sex offender. He completed his treatment in 90 days. His family then got an attorney and appealed having to register as a sex offender. Because he was not a victim first, the judge ruled this made him a predator, thus must register for the next 10 years as a sex offender, and not permitted to use the internet during those 10 years.

The second person arrested under this new law, a 15yo male, was charged the same, required to get treatment, and register as a sex offender. His parents immediately hired an attorney and tried to appeal before he got treatment. The judge denied the appeal and said he had to receive treatment before he would accept an appeal. So he got treatment. Here it was learned that his uncle had molested him numerous time from the age of 12 to 14. After treatment the attorney filed the appeal again, where it was explained he was a victim first, and the judge overturned having to register.

But do you see the flaw in the process? Immediately when arrested and charged, the judge should hear the circumstances including whether or not they are victims first. If they are a victim first, then get them counseling, do not require them to register as a sex offender until a counselor deems they may be a threat to offend in the future. If they were not a victim first, then the current procedure is probably correct.

I'm so sick and tired of our government overprotecting us teens. They basically are stripping away our rights and not letting us be teens. They are stealing our teenage years and forcing us to be adults long before we need to be adults. Laws such as teen males not being permitted to be shirtless in public, swim teams can no longer wear speedos in high school, and now this new law treating teens as adults when it comes to exposing themselves in pictures or on webcam online.

Are these new laws stopping teens from doing what normal teens would do? NO. You can log into a webcam chat every night and teens left and right are exposing themselves on cam. The problem is when a teen lets an adult watch, that is the only crime. Go after those adult predators, not the teens who are innocently having fun. After all, wouldn't parents rather have us having innocent and safe fun on a webcam than actually meeting in person with another teen and having sex? You'd think so.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Issue 2, 3, and school issues

This November there are 2 issues on the ballot that are very important to the State of Ohio.

Issue 2 is an agricultural issue. It will reduce taxes on farmers, increase quality control of Ohio produce and foods, and help to keep Ohio farm products within the state. It also requires groceries to provide Ohio products only! Definitely want to vote FOR this issue.

Issue 3 is that casino issue. It just won't go away. Voters keep voting it down but it keeps coming up on the ballot. Each time it has failed by fewer and fewer votes. I guess they figure eventually it will get passed if they keep trying. I'm all for this issue. It will create jobs and generate $680 million in tax revenue. Our state deficit is $640 million. This issue alone will eliminate our state deficit and get our economy back on track. Opponents to the issue twist the words around to try and get this defeated.

Of course lots of school districts have issues on the ballot. Southwestern City schools have their issue again on the ballot. All sports were canceled this year since it didn't past the last time. So all the athletes transfered to other school districts. If this one passes they will restore sports beginning with Spring sports. But all the best athletes can't return until 2010-11, so their sports would suck this Spring. Several others may eliminate sports too if their issues fail.

The problem with these school issues is that so many people are unemployed and can't afford tax increases. And schools waste so much money. Did you know that administrative cell phone bills last year in Dublin City Schools cost almost $100,000! One school district contracted out for mowing the grass. WTF! Make the janitor do it. Geez.

Early October Update

Life has settled down for me lately. My grandfather is settled in with me and enjoying time with me and the Saints. He volunteers a lot of time helping out with the organization.

As for me, school keeps me pretty busy. I'm on Student Council again this year so usually every Monday evening I have duties for that. Classes are harder this year and requires me to study a bit more.

I'm helping out Adrian in communications with the Saints. He's struggling to get free time to do his job. School isn't easy for him and that is his primary focus. So for now I'm helping him with the Saints duties as much as possible.

I'm running cross country this fall. I'm not very fast but that wasn't the point of me running. I just wanted to get my exercise! I do find it helps clear my mind from issues, etc. And definitely helps me sleep at night!

That's all for now. Not really much exciting in my life at the moment.

Friday, September 25, 2009

Shift Change.

With elections of Saints of America comes a transistional period. Adrian Wilson takes over my position but he's been sick with swine flu over the past 3 weeks. I've tried to cover for him in the interim but not much success. Adrian is doing fine now and should resume his duties this weekend.

It's been a bad week for Saints of America. But we are tough and strong. We will survive.

GOD BLESS each of you who have prayed for our members.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Moving On.....

First, thank you to all my friends and relatives who gave me so much support after my mother passed away. Especially my friends in the Saints of America, and Coach Robinson. It's amazing how such good friends can make a tragedy like this seem like nothing.

I also want to thank my grandpa, who is taking me in and now will be essentially my father. He inherited my mom's home and we'll live here in Ohio during the school year and at his home in Nova Scotia during the summer. My grandpa is a retired airline pilot and former Grand Banks fisherman. He's an onery cuss but he's a great guy. He's already taught me a lot about life in just a week. I have a feeling I'm going to learn a lot from him.

School started yesterday and I got a little angry because everyone kept giving me more sympathy. I don't need more sympathy because I'm passed it all.

Oh, who did I meet while with my grandpa in Nova Scotia? Robert DeNiro. I guess he has a cottage near where my grandpa lives (Herring Cove). My grandpa says they are best of friends even though Robert DeNiro is only there about a month the whole year. But Robert DeNiro is a terrific guy. I've never really been a fan of his, but I'll guarantee I'm going to go watch a lot of his movies that I probably haven't seen.

The people in Nova Scotia are very simple people, and very friendly. I felt like everyone had known me for my whole life. A lot of fisherman up there. I learned a lot about fishing in just a week. And next summer I hope to join a fishing boat as a deck hand just to see what that is like. I keep imagining THE DEADLIEST CATCH, THE PERFECT STORM, etc.

Physically I'm maturing very rapidly. I now have to shave daily. I'm actually letting my sideburns grow out down to my jaw bone. All the males in my family have a lot of facial hair. My grandfather is gray haired and full gray beard. He looks like an ole fisherman. LOL. I'm now just shy of 6' tall. I've grown six inches over the past 14 months! And I'm not that skinny little boy anymore either. I've bulked up, probably from working out at the Saints of America gym.

I joined the cross country team at school this year. The first workout, man, I defintely have a lot more respect for long distance runners. After about the 2nd mile, I was struggling. But I see cross country as something to help keep me in shape. I'm growing fast and if I don't work out and stay in shape I'll start putting on fat and extra weight. Most of the males in my family are overweight, even though my grandpa has done well to lose his weight.

Oh yeah, I ate a lot of Sea Bass, Swordfish, Herring and Lobster while in Nova Scotia. The people up there really know how to steam and cook fish. It doesn't even smell like fish. I've never been a big fish eater, but I really enjoyed the meals while up there. DELICIOUS!

That's all for now. Again, thanks to everyone for their support during the week after my mother's passing away. You all were wonderful. Thank you and God Bless.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

My mother passed away......

I'm sure many of you who read my blog and know me on Facebook have heard by now. My mother was in a car accident and died last night. I wish I could say it was the other person's fault but it wasn't. She had just finished working a 12 hour day and apparently wasn't paying attention and ran a stop sign, and a van going 55mph smashed right into the driver side door. She suffered a couple hours before she finally gave in.

Only a couple of you knew my mom had cancer and the worst kind. I've just never told many though anyone who would visit me at home could tell my mom was not doing very well. So I see this accident now as a blessing, in that she doesn't have to suffer any more.

Last weekend we had a family reunion and I guess we'll have another one this weekend. My mother requested no viewing and to be cremated. Her ashes and churn to be given to her sister in Michigan. The formal service will be Sunday at 1pm at the Great Hall of the Saints of America facility and social gathering to follow at the Boat House. It is NOT an open gathering. Only relatives. Small private affair. That is what my mom wanted.

Our house was to be given to me, but I'm sure my mom expected to live until I was old enough to live on my own. I guess since I'm not 18 whatever she gave me goes into a "trust" that will be turned over to me when I become an adult. I have relatives in Michigan, Colorado, England, and in Nova Scotia. The question is who can take me in. We'll decide that this weekend. But most likely I'll be moving away from Ohio.

Please, don't send flowers, cards or anything. Your sympathy and prayers are enough. I have lots of friends who are supporting and comforting me. Everyone, especially Coach Robinson, have been great. I love all of you, especially Coach, Doc, and all the Saints of America members. If I hadn't been in this organization I don't know how I'd be doing right now. So God Bless all of you. Oh yes, I'm sure Nana Ina has been praying for me. Thank you Ina!

I'll update my blog once I know where I'm going to live, and after the family gathering.